Sunday, November 13, 2005

Future of Matrimonial search process

Past few months, whenever I start to think of my marriage, I had to think about how will I get a girl of my choice (that is, rural development minded, however my requirement is irrelevant here). I have started to understand the merits and demerits of current system. First I will discuss how things are happening right now and later we will see how there will be a paradigm shift from the current scenario.

Indian traditional system surely not applicable in this IT age because these days people do stay away from their parents (far distant locations). Telecon, Chatting, e-mails will be of little help in continuing this centuries old system. So why ..

There is a phenomenal rise of Matrimonial sites in India (they were even successful during dot-com bust). They are just a replica of Indian traditional system of marriage brokers in this electronic arena. Important thing to note here is, they are just helpful to dig out a girl based on age, caste, religion, education, profession. However observe that this is only initial elimination process.

Actual process starts when communication happens. Demerit of this is that one cant decide a life partner just by asking some questions or qualifications or expertise over telecon or chatting. To have a lifetime relationship, critical thing is to understand the background (history) of the partner in regards of interests, relations, interactions, beliefs, etc.

So now the question is that, what is the media that allows a person to get the background of another, before making the crucial decision of ones own life. Yes, you must have understood by now. This blog-site of mine covers a very restricted domain. This particular blog also fits into it, very perfectly. It is "Googling" of that person. It really helps us get to know the more closer details. Future of matrimonial process is in googling (or researching) the partner.

One can understand the other persons feelings by reading his/her blogs. Then next is to check for comments that (s)he makes in communities such as orkut or gazzag. However, one should not fall by profile information. Profiles are usually to express positive things of a person but never reveals negative aspect of a person. This is crucial when in building a relation without a break (be aware that gone are the days, when divorces are so rare).

One must evaluate from the discussion point of view how well (s)he truly represent her/his profile. In this regard, blogs, comments in blogs, comments in web-news, comments in websites, issues raised in orkut type of communities, the kind of social network, etc are to be analysed in comparison with profiles in business networking sites, personal website, social networking websites, etc.

and then, if everything goes well, after getting married, I personally believe that they must exchange their mail ids (reveal the passwords) to let each other know more closer.

However there is a negative shade of this. Before being googled by the other, one can do auto-googling and eliminate/ modify any controversial topics discussed by him/her. But then, not all can be deleted. This is where the searcher has to put his brain at work.

Although I vaguely expressed my view points here, but I will discuss in detail some other point of time. Probably when I am successful in my own search, I will disclose all of my strategies that I have applied :-) .

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EYE said...

What if the person doesn't blog, doesn't have an orkut account and make comments on public forums? What if a google search reveals nothing?

Market Research said...

Effortless shot. It is a great way of marketing. You have done a very good job with it, nice post. Keep it up!!!!!